The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
by Gary Chapman is the first in a series of books that attempt to identify the unique ways that people like to be loved or appreciated. It is critical reading for couples and parents. Two people can love each other deeply and express love to each other in a language that is not appreciated by the other person. This can lead to marital dissatisfaction.For example: one person may express love by doing chores around the house without being asked. This may be the perfect thing to fill up the appreciation bucket of their spouse or mean nothing if their primary language was quality time.
According to the author, it is important for each person in a relationship to learn how to express their love in a language that fills the other persons bucket even if the language may be outside their preferred method of appreciation. It is good if couples can specifically communicate their needs and be forgiving if their preferred language is outside the other person's comfort zone. The initial expression may be similar to a person just learning a foreign language.
This book was recommended to me by a grad student who felt it may be a helpful way to understand my teenager. Words of affirmation and quality time were the ones that were most appreciated by my teen. You can take the free quiz at 5 love languages.com,
The five love languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
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